This: Mysogyny – Good Morning Let's Make Today Happen

Wed morning after the 2024 election I got up. Can’t say I woke up because I only slept two hours. I told my husband I already feel like a second-class citizen. In the past we (women) were considered property. No better than a man’s horse. We could not vote until the 19^th Amendment in 1920. We could not have a bank account until the 1960s. In 1974 the Equal Credit Opportunity Act allowed women to apply for credit cards and loans without a male co-signer. I don’t just fear for women’s healthcare but also a that men have now been empowered to dominate and abuse women even more.

I am sure all women have that gut feeling when they meet up with certain men. A visceral reaction that says, “Danger, creepy, predator…” Well, I have those feelings with Trump and Vance. We have all seen it. It is all over the news. (And, if you haven’t see the links provided.) The degrading and dehumanizing comments. The attitude of “back in the kitchen and have babies” rising. Vance’s cat-lady comments; that people without children should not have a full vote because they are not invested in the future (does this include men? Not sure.); post-menopausal women should quit their jobs to take care of their grandchildren (are you kidding me). Notice he did not say older men should quit their jobs. And women…I am speaking to you…if you are denying that these statements offend you. Shame on you. You are allowing this behavior. This cannot be normalized.

It hasn’t even been a full week since the election and the uptick in misogyny has started. I heard this right-wing comedian, Nick Fuentes. (See youtube link.) Then I heard that young men and boys were starting to taunt women and girls with this Meme…” Your Body, My Choice.” What does this say to you? This says, “I am the man I can do what I want with your body whether you like it or not.” Her body my choice. It is my choice to rape you. It is my choice to degrade you. This is saying it is OK to rape, beat, neglect, and use women. Since Trumps first presidency there has been increase in misogynist, hateful, and racist statements across the United States because there is a comfort level. It has been normalized. “Well, if the President can say these things, it is ok for me too.” I greatly fear that this is our future. If the men feel this way, what are they going to be teaching their son’s. That girl’s body is yours to do as you wish. What will these men be saying to their daughters? You must allow boys to do what they want with your body. Or at the very least if raped—you deserved it, or I don’t believe you. I knew a man who at the very least verbally abused his wife. Treated her very poorly in front of others. Cannot imagine what went on behind closed doors. He once stated, “I will teach my daughter to not need a man in her life.” This is not what he was modeling for his daughter. Actions speak louder than words. When I was a teen, my father would not allow me to get my ears pierced until I was 18 because then they were my ears. What does that say to me? That my body is my father’s until I am 18. Now, my dad is an awesome father, did not abuse me and eventually relented and let me pierce my ears at 16. He even took to me get them pierced. He was being a smart ass but that is how men groom their victims.

During the election there were statements made to encourage women to vote their choice. That women did not need to tell their husbands who they voted for and that no one would know. Your vote is private. My husband, who does not have a misogynist bone in his body, did not understand why this would need to be stated. I had to explain that women in abusive and/or male domineering relationships would threaten the women to vote for who their husband or boyfriend wanted them to vote for or suffer the consequences.

I fear there will be an increase in violence towards women. Increase in domestic abuse, rape, and increase in rape of teenage women. This is what prompted me to start this blog. I have several women in my life who have suffered from sexual abuse. I have three granddaughters. I greatly fear they have an increased chance to be a victim because Trump in not protecting us, he is the perpetrator in so very many ways. He states he will be our protector whether we want it or not. That statement right there is misogyny. He is not giving us a choice. What woman in their right mind would want protection from Trump?

How do we make a change? I don’t necessarily have an answer. I am looking for the answer. But we need to take a stand whenever we can however we can. I understand that some may not be able to due to violent retaliation but find some small way if you can. When you see it or hear it call it out…this is not OK. Model your behavior and do not accept this attuite and behavior. Teach our youth (boys and girls) that this is NOT OK. Protect each other, especially our young girls.

This Is NOT OK.

Please see these articles that support my feelings and statements.